The holiday season is often seen as the most wonderful time of the year and full of joy, laughter, and cherished traditions. But for those navigating a divorce, it can feel like a snowstorm of emotions—unpredictable, overwhelming, and sometimes, pretty lonely. Whether you’re co-parenting kids or flying solo this season, the holidays don’t have to be bleak. In fact, they can mark the beginning of fresh traditions and newfound joy.
If you’re in Austin and recently divorced—or considering a divorce—you’re not alone. A skilled divorce lawyer can help you with the legal aspects, but when it comes to reclaiming your holidays, that’s your story to write. Let’s talk about how you can embrace the season, redefine your traditions, and make this time of year yours again.
It’s okay to admit it: the first holiday season after a divorce is tough. There’s a good chance your old routines are out the window, especially if you’re used to spending this time with your ex or your kids as one family unit. The key to overcoming this? Give yourself permission to feel all the feels. Sadness, relief, joy, exhaustion—there’s room for all of it.
And here’s the thing: you don’t have to recreate what the holidays used to be. In fact, this is your chance to start fresh, creating traditions that fit your new life and bring you peace. This is your time to discover and do what fulfills you.
If you have kids, the holidays come with a unique challenge—and opportunity. You want the season to feel magical, even if it looks a little different this year. Here’s how to make that happen:
Co-parenting during the holidays can feel like a high-stakes chess match, but it doesn’t have to. A clear custody agreement that covers major holidays can eliminate last-minute squabbles, ensuring everyone knows where the kids will be and when.
If you’re in Austin and your custody arrangement feels murky or outdated, this is a great time to consult with a divorce lawyer to get it sorted before the holidays. Clarity now means less stress later.
Can’t be with your kids on Christmas Day? Consider celebrating early or late. There’s no law that says presents must be opened on December 25. Your “Second Christmas” could become the highlight of the season, complete with quirky traditions like breakfast tacos (because, Austin) or an epic movie marathon.
Maybe your family always went caroling or baked cookies together. Keep those traditions alive, but make them your own. Decorate cookies that reflect your interests or try something Austin-centric like a holiday lights tour around town.
Let’s face it, the holidays can get expensive, especially after a divorce. Instead of stressing over gifts, focus on shared experiences: a day at Zilker Park’s Trail of Lights, Harry Potter Forbidden Forrest, Peppermint Parkway, a picnic at Mount Bonnell, or just cozying up at home with hot cocoa.
Not every divorce involves kids, but that doesn’t make the holidays any easier. This season might mean adjusting to being alone for the first time in years—or maybe even reconnecting with yourself.
What better time to hit the road? Escaping the usual holiday hustle and bustle could be just what you need. Explore Austin’s neighboring gems like Fredericksburg or Wimberley, or go all out with a tropical getaway.
If solo travel isn’t your thing, consider joining a group trip. It’s a great way to meet new people and avoid the awkward “plus one” questions at holiday events.
You don’t need a partner to host a holiday gathering. Invite your closest friends over for a potluck-style feast, complete with games, drinks, and a judgment-free zone for venting about the holidays. Bonus points if you have an “ugliest sweater” contest!
Use the holidays as an excuse for some much-needed self-care. Book a spa day, treat yourself to a fancy dinner at one of Austin’s iconic restaurants, finally tackle that project you’ve been putting off, or simply do nothing but cozy up and reread your favorite book.
Nothing puts things in perspective like giving back. Austin is full of opportunities to volunteer during the holidays, from food banks to animal shelters. Not only will you make a difference, but you’ll also connect with people who share your values.
Divorce doesn’t just affect you—it can ripple through your family, too. Holiday gatherings might feel more awkward or tense, especially if your relatives are still adjusting. Here are some ways to ease the transition:
The holidays are just one part of your journey, and they offer a chance to reflect on what truly matters as you step into the new year. Think about the traditions and moments that brought you joy this season and the past year, and consider how you can carry them forward or build on them.
It’s okay if everything doesn’t go perfectly—new routines take time and lessons are learned when life doesn’t go perfectly. Use what you’ve learned to shape a year filled with meaningful connections, self-care, and growth opportunities. Remember, moving forward is about progress, not perfection. The new year is yours to create and define, one step at a time.
Divorce might change how your holidays look, but it doesn’t have to take away the joy. Whether you’re redefining traditions with your kids or forging a solo path, this season is an opportunity to celebrate where you are—and where you’re going.
So hang up those twinkly lights, embrace the possibilities, and remember: you’re not alone. And if you need legal guidance along the way, Coldwell Bowes is here to help, offering compassionate expertise to Austin and Central Texas families navigating divorce.
Here’s to a season of fresh starts and new traditions!